What is your breaking point? What’s it going to take to get you off your ass and start doing something? You have been talking forever about how you better figure out this whole internet thing before it;s too late. Before you get laid off, salary decreased, mortgage becomes unbearable or the back taxes you owe just overwhelm you.
More than likely you have waited too long and all of the above have happened or are in the process of happening. You need to make a decision. Either say the hell with it and get another job maybe 2 or take action. It’s that easy. At least that is what all the so called gurus say, just “take action”. So why can’t you?
Is it because your entire life you have never had someone really believe in you or push you to follow your dreams? Some people are shot down at an early age by being told that “you can’t do that”, or “that is stupid, why would you want to that.” Have you had a similar experience?
I know a story of a little girl who was a junior high track star, excelled at everything she did and was invited to go to the junior olympics. One of her teachers thought that because of her low math scores, not failing just low, she ought to go to summer school. She couldn’t both go to summer school and go to the summer olympics, she had to choose. In jumped the parents.
Parents are supposed to be your greatest advocate, your mentor, your cheerleader. However that is all too common not the case. These parents in their infinite wisdom made this little girl go to summer school. She would never have that opportunity again. In that one instant her life was altered. Her “mentors” basically told her that following your dreams is for the birds, foolish and bad. As a result she was never allowed the opportunity to believe in herself, to either succeed or fail on her own merits.
In order to take action you need a motivating force. Typically it is one of two reasons that provide that motivation. Either there is someone you respect and admire that you want to please or you are backed into corner and you have no other option. Both are effective but neither is sustainable without one key additional piece. If you don’t believe in yourself, believe that you are worthy, believe that there is no possible way for you to fail then you will find a way to self defeat. Guaranteed.
If that little girl would have been allowed to follow her dreams, to fail or succeed on her terms, who knows, maybe she would have seen that it is okay to lose a race but at least she was in the race. She would have that feeling of what it is like to give it your all and be okay with the results, whatever they were, knowing you gave it all you had. From that you learn what to do better next time. Instead, for the rest of your life all you can say is, “What if?”
Everyone out there who is not succeeding on the internet right now has a similar story somewhere in their past. At sometime when you needed it most a mentor did not believe in you and you did not learn how to believe in yourself. All you needed was a word of encouragement, a pat on the back, a simple “We believe in you”. Instead the rest of your life has been spent trying to figure out how to find that belief in self, that ultimate key to the life of your dreams. I wish I had a golden nugget to share, the one thing that will turn on the belief, an easy answer, but I don’t. That golden nugget is different for us all, you just have to find it within yourself.